On a day like Valentine’s Day, it’s easy for us who don’t really have a reason to celebrate to feel down and out on a holiday meant for romance and love. But changing our viewpoint from self- focused to service- focused might just be the tonic we need to soothe the hurt feelings and sadness. I have read many times that turning our attention off of our own problems and on to helping others is the very best way to realign our hearts and feel better about our own circumstances. God created us to serve others and when we are in the moments of doing just that, things seem to be more peaceful, if only just for a moment. But I found time and time again, that doing something for someone else always makes me feel better, turning a not so great day around into something unexpected.
If we’re feeling alone and sorry for ourselves on Valentine’s Day because it is painful, sad, or lonely, I’m thinking that the best remedy today is to turn it around by doing something nice for someone else who is also alone. Showering another hurting woman with loving acts of kindness is sure to brighten our own day in the process.
“And everything I did, I showed you that by this kind of hard work we must help the weak, remembering the words the Lord Jesus Christ himself said. ‘ it is more blessed to give than to receive.’” Acts 20:35
For today, instead of wishing things were different, I’m choosing joy anyway. I’m choosing to follow his instructions and do the things that can bless another, even on my own cloudy day. I hope that you’ll treat yourself to something special, even if it’s writing yourself a love note reminding yourself of all the wonderful qualities you possess. I think it’s very important to show yourself some love, as well, no matter how small the detail. But in the process, treating another lonely heart to the gift of friendship, compassion, and care might just be the gift you didn’t even know you needed.
I’m having a Mad Hatter’s tea party, celebrating, in spite of it all, even if I’m the only one that is here to enjoy it. I’m hopeful my mom can join me. Pulling out all the things I’ve boxed away for someday, choosing to enjoy them, just because, is better than trying to ignore the day altogether.
So I encourage you to invite over an elderly friend that lives alone, a new neighbor you’ve been wanting to get to know, a young mom that’s frazzled and needs a listening ear. A little bit of hospitality and fellowship might be just the ticket we need. And remember that God is near the brokenhearted. Happy Valentine’s Day.
A FRUITFUL LEGACY 